Marriage and children go hand in hand, but if you and your future spouse do not take the time now to discuss, “How are we going to rear our children?” you will argue about it later.
The topic of children will create many arguments if it is not dealt with right from the start.
The Number of Children
The first matter that a new couple must agree on is the number of children. If one spouse wants many children but the other is concerned about the cost of large family there will be arguments about money problems later. However, if a couple can agree on the number of children ahead of time many arguments will be avoided.
The next matter of importance is how the children will be disciplined. It is not uncommon for a couple to come from diverse family backgrounds and possess different views on child discipline.
Questions like whether or not you will spank your children must be discussed and agreed upon or there will be troubles later. How the children are disciplined can be as damaging as money problems.
The Faith Training
Another matter that must be dealt with is the faith training of the children. It used to be that when a couple married they were usually from the same faith. However that is not true any longer. It is very possible that a young couple will come from different religious backgrounds. This might be overlooked by a couple in love but it will create problems latter when the children arrive.
Don’t leave this issue unresolved. A couple must agree on the faith training of their children.
Finally, we come to one of the most difficult issues to agree on, education. Don’t assume your new spouse will agree with your views on how to educate your children, Not everyone believes that public education is the way to go, many people feel private schooling is to expensive and others believe that homeschooling is the best choice.
So, sit down with your spouse and determine together what will be best for your children and your family as a whole. This will probably be the hardest point to agree on but it will worth the effort to work it out now and not later.
Come to an Agreement
A couple must agree on the number, discipline, schooling, and faith training of their children. Many families have been destroyed because the parents didn’t agree on the methods used to rear their children.